tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post7506814060237192536..comments2024-03-08T02:15:29.016-06:00Comments on Beyond the Fork in the Road: Re-GroupingChicken Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11704834273210183660noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-14603972505946112042011-08-02T09:46:26.703-05:002011-08-02T09:46:26.703-05:00I think Mama nailed it. People seem to see so muc...I think Mama nailed it. People seem to see so much of "live and let live" on tv and in books that they fail to differentiate from FICTION and what is morally right in real life. I tend to say what would have been morally right would have been to be a friend back when the first suspicions arose and pulled the parties aside (and that includes you!) and that friend should have said "look, grow up, cut it out, you're hurting people", etc etc. I don't blame you one bit for not wanting to cause riffs in such a small community now by severing a friendship, yet at the same time you need to allow yourself to feel betrayed... you were. Your feelings are "caused" by being brought up in a morally stable family and by good role models of what love, marriage and family should be in real life, not fiction. I have no answers, just know that I support you in all your feelings, they are justified. Sorry I'm late to the post, gotta go catch up on your others now too!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06916896512933101955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-61288853109871135422011-08-01T09:41:48.598-05:002011-08-01T09:41:48.598-05:00Hey, APG - This mama thanks you for your oh-so-wis...Hey, APG - This mama thanks you for your oh-so-wise words to her daughter. Bless you.Mama Peahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03649357184167949247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-14853927493752589332011-07-31T21:35:44.564-05:002011-07-31T21:35:44.564-05:00Wow. Grrrrr! Ok, one thing I have learned from t...Wow. Grrrrr! Ok, one thing I have learned from the been there done that camp, is this:<br /><br />Divorce isn NEVER a clean cut down the middle. Observe...Draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. Now tear it. Does it tear clean? Nope. Parts of each other are on the other sides. And this includes your friends even. Right, wrong or indifferent. And if you need reassurance on that, your Mama NAILED it.<br /><br />These people are not getting "your truths". They are getting their truths. And man-o-man can they be warped.<br /><br />Stick to what you know my friend. And that is that YOU are outstanding!!!!The Apple Pie Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10340020795649093810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-63285805959101758892011-07-31T18:05:35.884-05:002011-07-31T18:05:35.884-05:00It's sad to think this way, but sometimes I fe...It's sad to think this way, but sometimes I feel most of society has lost all sense of what is morally right or wrong. People don't think things such as cheating on a partner are "that bad." Because of the influence of TV, movies and advertising and what is portrayed as "normal," people are fully accepting such bad behavior as . . . well, normal. Everybody does it, they say. There's no distinction between (what I think is) immoral sexual (or other) behavior portrayed in our society as entertainment than that of real life. (You think you have reason to be totally pi**ed off at someone for doing you wrong? Well, get a gun and shoot them. Kill them. Blow them up. How many murders/crimes are portrayed on TV or in movies regularly? How de-sensitized do we get to what should be unacceptable behavior just by seeing it portrayed before our eyes ALL THE TIME?)<br /><br />Also, you have to consider that a mutual "friend" may be getting two entirely different stories from each person who comprised the couple. Who (whom?) should the friend believe when the one creating the falsehood may be capable of being just as convincing as the one telling the truth? Doesn't say much for the liar, but that seems to be done a lot these days, too. Lying, that is.Mama Peahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03649357184167949247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-50383647015197818752011-07-31T15:22:49.141-05:002011-07-31T15:22:49.141-05:00Wow, DogsMom, well said. And I'm sorry my pos...Wow, DogsMom, well said. And I'm sorry my post brought you memories from the past. :( I think venting my frustrations / anger here is one of the things that DOES help me be kind and civil in "the real world". Too, just getting it OUT (which, apparently, took me 3 whole posts today!), lets me get it out of my head and MOVE ON! And, yes, not having any control over what others think is one of my biggest struggles.<br /><br />SO glad you posted! :)Chicken Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11704834273210183660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-39466523633311349572011-07-31T15:10:01.677-05:002011-07-31T15:10:01.677-05:00Your post brought up memories of bad times from my...Your post brought up memories of bad times from my past. I have not shared them with many so can not (will not) go into it on open air. Just remember to be true to who YOU desire to be as a person. You can not control the thoughts of others. I made a lot of bad decisions out of anger and grief. Try to avoid doing that. Keep what is best for you, moving forward, on your priority list every day. Live the way you want to be valued in the world. Fortunately or not, other people will come and go. Stay in touch with the best ones.Laura S Readinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09812735660993028271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-53118637581230686442011-07-31T12:07:17.967-05:002011-07-31T12:07:17.967-05:00Patty, I LOVE it! Thank you! Bundle of Joy's...Patty, I LOVE it! Thank you! Bundle of Joy's message brought me my first real smile of the day! :) Thank you, too, for your words. I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way. One thing I failed to mention in my rant (!) is that I realize that it is HARD WORK to stick to your beliefs and convictions . . . which is why I think many people avoid them. Meaning, it would be harder / more difficult / more uncomfortable to say, when seeing Former Friend in town (especially a small town), "I'm sorry, I just can't be friends with you right now" than just grabbing that cup of coffee with them and IGNORING their transgressions!<br /><br />Anyway, THANKS! :) xoChicken Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11704834273210183660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12847808.post-28842201614111659172011-07-31T11:48:43.613-05:002011-07-31T11:48:43.613-05:00gggggggggggggggggggm hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhrmmm7677iyyhh...gggggggggggggggggggm hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhrmmm7677iyyhhhb n mmmm yjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjj njk, lmkkkk <br /><br />The above is a very wise message from Bundle of Joy to her Auntie.<br /><br />I wish we could make it all better!<br /><br />There are so many sticky social situations to wade through these days. It seems like there is no right and wrong. Everyone is just excused for their behavior based on their own view point, their own excuses about why they did what they did. It stinks! What happened to integrity and personal responsibility, anyway?<br />-Love and hugs from Bundle of Joy and Mrs. TanglewoodsPattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18153751759157433693noreply@blogger.com